In just under a fortnight, people will stop for two minutes at precisely eleven o'clock. They will stop where they stand - in shops, in busy streets, or simply in their own homes. These people will be of all ages. These people may come from very different backgrounds. Yet they will all stop and be silent as one, for the same reason: Respect and remembrance to those who gave their lives in war. Many of those people will be wearing a symbol of that remembrance, pinned onto their coats, or tucked into the band of a hat worn to keep out the November chill. A small, vivid red reminder of the sacrifices given so that we may live freely. A poppy.
Yet every year, there is a small, but worryingly noisy chorus of people who feel that simple, red symbol, is somehow offensive. That we shouldn't wear a poppy. That to do so - and I find this possibly the most laughable thing I've ever heard in my life - is to "glorify war."
So I'm writing this not only to explain why I find that view not only wrong but deeply offensive, but also to try to give something of a background to the Poppy Appeal. For a part of me can't help but wonder whether the cries of "wearing that shows you're pro-war!" are borne out of ignorance of what the symbol truly means.
One of the earliest mentions of a poppy in the context of war, comes from a poem called "In Flanders' Fields," written in 1915 by Lieutenant Colonel John Alexander McCrea. McCrea was a Medical Officer from the 1st Canadian Contingent, who was in charge of a field hospital during the Second Battle of Ypres. Far from "glorifying war," McCrea was devastated by the loss of life all around him during the bloody, seventeen day battle. He wrote his now famous poem, following the death of one of his friends. The opening lines speak of the red poppy being the first flower to grow out of the earth beneath which the dead lay, bringing with it hope and new life. The final lines read:
The poppies for that very first appeal all came from France. However, in 1922, a UK-based factory was opened, to produce poppies for future appeals and to provide employment for disabled former soldiers. To this day, the workforce employed to make the poppies we wear for Remembrance Day is largely comprised of disabled former British military personnel and the money raised from the annual Poppy Appeal is spent on a variety of good causes. Here are just a few:
- Personnel Recovery Centres, which help wounded or sick service personnel to recover and either return to service, or adjust to civilian life.
- Care homes for ex service personnel and their families.
- Break services for current military personnel as well as ex servicemen/women and their families, providing an opportunity to get away from the stress of military life and spend quality time together.
- Providing emotional support to service personnel as well as ex military personnel and their families.
- Offering legal assistance, financial support and advice on benefits etc for current and ex service personnel and their beneficiaries.
Many who oppose the wearing of a poppy will tell you that they do so because they are vehemently anti-war. Ask yourself a question: Do you personally know anyone who is actively pro-war?! I certainly don't! I don't wear my poppy in November because gosh darn it, I just love a good war. Dictators and violent lunatics aside, I can't think of anyone who could describe themselves as "pro-war," thus making the statement "anti-war" in itself, rather ludicrous. Aren't we all anti war, deep down? Wouldn't we all rather there was never a need for bloodshed, or for innocent lives to be lost? The trouble is, to suggest that some day war will just end and all conflicts will be solved with a bit of a chit-chat is painfully naive, however nice a dream it may be. You may call me negative for saying that, but I'm really not. I would love to live in a world in which there is no more war. I just recognise that it's highly unlikely ever to happen. Saying that doesn't mean that I'm pro-war. It means I acknowledge the sad fact that conflict can and does happen.
Another argument against wearing a poppy is that to do so suggests that you view the military as heroes and those who are pacifists (because as I said, I don't believe in the phrase "anti-war") refuse to acknowledge them as such. Taking away the extreme potential offensiveness of that statement (and speaking as a member of a family with a long and proud military history, that's not exactly easy), ask yourself how wearing a poppy suggests you view everyone in the military as a hero. The poppy, as we've discovered, is simply a symbol of remembrance. Wearing it makes ONE statement and it's not "I love war" and it's not even "every person in the military is a hero." It's "WE WILL REMEMBER THEM."
That said, those who gave their lives in the two World Wars were heroes. I will argue this point until there is no breath left in my body. Without the sacrifices they made, you - yes YOU reading this right now - might not be here to read this or anything else. The freedom the vast majority of us have (and take for granted) to do as we please, love whoever we want and believe in whatever we choose, would more than likely not exist. It would be an entirely different world and whatever we may think of our current government, or the current social climate, I certainly know which world I'd rather live in.
Those currently serving are performing incredibly brave - indeed, heroic - actions every day. They're entering situations which you or I wouldn't dream of going anywhere near. They're still risking - and all too often, giving - their lives in the eventual pursuit of PEACE and freedom. It's not about mindless slaughter, or violence without meaning. Anyone who knows about the science of war will tell you how much careful planning goes into every military manoeuvre. Can you put your hand on your heart and say you'd happily walk into a situation where you could be seriously wounded or killed? That's what our Armed Forces are doing out there in places like Afghanistan. On a daily basis.
This is where pacifists will argue that a person who kills another can never be a hero. And this is where I argue - what if nobody had fought back during either of the World Wars? What if everyone had all sat back and announced: "I'm sorry, we can't fight against you; you'll have to just do whatever you want..." then even fewer of us would be alive now. Mainly because so many of our ancestors would have been killed for their religious or political beliefs, if not for their sexual orientation. Those who fought in those two wars, did so not because they wanted to kill (the infamous Christmas Day football match between the British and German troops during WWI shows that all the soldiers knew they were at heart, just people caught in an impossibly awful situation), but because they felt a duty to protect their country and the liberties they had. I may not be around today if those people hadn't gone to fight. I now live in a free country in which people of all sexualities, all religions and cultural backgrounds have rights. Those soldiers helped to achieve that and they are heroes for that. Our men and women out in Afghanistan and similar war-torn areas are fighting to provide those same freedoms for others. That makes them heroes, too.
Modern battles are often cited as reasons for poppy-opposition. But in truth, whether or not you agreed with the invasions of Iraq or Afghanistan is irrelevant when it comes to the subject of the poppy. There is - and I'm getting bored of having to write this, so Heaven knows what those reading it are thinking - NO connection between wearing a poppy and being "pro-war." There is no place for politics when it comes to remembering our war dead. It's not about saying "yes, I agree with the war in Afghanistan," or "I'm so pleased World War 1 happened," it's about saying "people have died and I wish to pay my respects."
When you attend a funeral, you wear black. Are you "glorifying" death?!
When you wear a pink ribbon for breast cancer awareness, are you somehow "glorifying" cancer?!
Of course not. You're paying respect and taking part in remembrance or the hope for a cure. Why is it that wearing a symbol of respect and remembrance for our service personnel who've given their lives is seen as being so different?
There are three colours of poppy, nowadays. The red one, with a long history and a peaceful, respectful beginning which has been taken by some and twisted into something it is not. Then there is a white poppy, used by pacifists. I must admit to taking some offence at that. There is no need for a poppy supposedly representing peace, when the red poppy already had roots in a hope for peace! The money from white poppies does not go towards any of the great projects The British Legion is responsible for, which help our ex service personnel, as well as those still serving. The sentiments of the white poppy are already encompassed by the red and many veterans feel that a white poppy seems to undermine what they went through and what their comrades died for.
The third is a purple poppy, representing the animals lost in war. Again, I believe the red poppy can easily encompass that, although as an animal lover, I do understand the desire to ensure animals aren't forgotten in war.
I would never tell another person what they can and can't believe and my writing this is not an attempt to force those who don't wear poppies to do so, however much I may privately wish them to. But to be told, by angry voices, that my poppy is offensive is genuinely disrespectful. It comes from ignorance of the poppy's history, a total disregard for the horrors suffered by those who gave their lives so that we could live in freedom today and a lack of understanding of how deeply, deeply offensive their protestations are to those left behind.
When I put my poppy onto my coat, I do so out of respect for those serving in wars today, those killed in active service throughout the years and with the hope that peace will ensue someday, however vain a wish I know that may be. I wear my poppy to show the immense pride I have in our Armed Forces, who protect this country, keep us secure and put their lives on the line so that I don't have to. I have my poppy on because I want to remember all lives lost in war, whether service personnel or civilian, human or animal. I wear it proudly, because I know that it doesn't make me pro-war or anything ludicrous like that. It doesn't mean I enjoy violence or I'm proud that there are battles raging in the world right now.
Every life lost in conflict is a tragedy. But it would be a greater tragedy if we were to listen to the voices of those suggesting that to wear a symbol of remembrance is somehow wrong. So I urge you: Wear your poppy with pride and remember all the peaceful, sincere reasons why it's there.